Break Down Again

I am sick today, not feeling well.
Just went to see doctor alone, bought my lunch alone, walked alone, listened to the music alone...
Even though I also doing these when attached, but the feeling now is much more miserable
No one to share with, my tears, my joy, my sadness, any kind of my feeling.
Used to have him as my companion, but now he is no longer belongs to me but someone else.

Once again, I am shedding tears while eating porridge. It's tasteless and plain, just like my heart.
I have been living like this for more than one month.
How to get through all these? How I wish I can get over it right now and move on.
I'd been trying hard to hang out with friends, teach tuition, work, read, chat with friends etc
But seems like I could not escape from this agony

I'd been pretending I am fine without him in front of him.
He concerned me as a friend, shared with me his progress with her
Do u know HOW SUFFER AND MISERABLE AM I when I listened to all these and even gave him advices?
I was so dumb, when can I really love myself more than anyone else?
We were so steady and sweet, even get along with each other's family well, thought of getting married with him too.
I love him so much, I regret that I put too much effort in this relationship.

I am not a fool, even if he denied the fact forever, I still trust my intuition and the truth I saw.
When the girl took initiative to attract his attention, he should resist and should not give themselves any chances to develop the feeling if he really want to commit our relationship.

长痛不如短痛
If we were still dragging, I would be more miserable than now?
I have to be tactful all the times, be worrying about losing him everyday, dreamed of his leaving with another girl every night
Now, all these happened, nothing more for me to lose, and worry, should I see it as a positive thing?

Getting into a relationship is just too tired.
I have been hurt again and again..
Where is my Mr. Right in my life? If you appeared earlier, I wouldn't be so suffered right now as I wouldn't meet him and fall in love with him.
It's so hurtful.
Living in agony makes me doesn't feel like waking up anymore, don't want to talk and smile.

I want to gain back my REAL smile. But when..?

假裝不愛

原來假裝的感覺是如此痛苦 明明還很愛 卻為了彼此見面不尷尬而假裝不在乎不愛了 這種感覺是如此辛苦 以為真的會不在乎 可是得知他跟我分手後跟別的女人單獨約會 我就覺得自己很傻 對方已經不在乎我了 不愛我了 我還在這裏傷心幹嘛呢？他和別的女人多麽開心 哪還需要我 我像個傻瓜一直努力逞強 現在卻再一次崩潰 看到他把我們的relationship status拿掉了我就失望 徹底沒有希望了 我為何還抱希望。真是無知 如果他真的愛我就不會那麽輕易放棄我們的感情 請看清楚這一點。。。

A Penny for My Thought 17/7/2012

There are so much uncomfortable and miserable feeling hidden underneath
But I have to force myself to keep all these feelings to myself
I do not want to publicize either but what way else I can express my feeling to the person concerned?
People tend to care about their face, image and reputation, but how about the person who always stood by you?

I do appreciate the good parts people given... I can accept any other weak points too
but if the weak point is the thing that hurt me so deep until all the happiness brought to me were buried,
this part of my life would become meaningless and all the efforts for the happiness will be ruin in vain

When saw almost halve of the photos were those I hate to see and I most scared to see,
my heart beat stopped for 1 second...
As I never expected the people I love so much, I care about so much, and I tolerate so much,
was the person who always minger with opposite sex friends and he was the only guy
People say that guy who always join girls' group looks "gay" and also very HamJi(Hamsap?)
I really do not want the people I love have such image to others 
It's not about the trust, it's not I worry that he will leave me
It's respect and fidelity to another half/relationship

There were so many people out there asked me about it
And most of the people saying that if they were me they will be upset and have no faith in this guy
Regardless how upset was I, I still have to pretend nothing JUST to protect his reputation and convince myself so that I can get rid of the fear hidden underneath since long ago

Could you really feel how hurt was that feeling? You couldn't. But I hope you could.
I don't know how many disappointments I have to collect to make myself leave you naturally 
Till the day that a sincerely guy who really know what both we should do to have a pleasant relationship appears in my life? Maybe yes. Maybe not. Nobody knows.

I know I have to focus on the positive parts. Yes, I did. I can accept any negative parts except for this. Do you really understand how hurtful is these actions to me? I know you did not do anything over the boundary, but both of us should aware of these intimate interactions with opposite sex friends, shouldn't we?

I am not controlling you. I just want to share with you the thing you do that make me annoyed and have negative feeling towards you. I don't want such feeling occur inside my heart. I do not want to leave you but I don't know how to make you aware of it naturally so that you won't feel that you are the only one who is right.

I am not the one who always wrong. Especially when majority agree with it, you should start to do soul research that whether the thing you did and you thought was really correct? When people reached the climax part of their life, they tend to neglect the feeling of the close people around them and start to enjoy the excitement with the new comers in their life. Those who always by their side, they would be taken for granted. 

Sometimes I have the urge to tell you how I feel when I saw those photos, but I still couldn't bring myself up
As I can foresee what will you answer and what will happen eventually
You will be the one who conquer and dominate and I am the one who say sorry to salvage the bad condition
Even if we patch up after the communication or so-called argument, the situation will be unfavorable to me
You will be cool and DAO me, group chat with your colleagues or friends
No more sweet talk to me or concerns to me

You always expect me to grow tough by myself
Yes, I could... if you also treat me nice naturally as usual
Don't keep changing your attitude towards me, it's really unbearable sometimes
Who am I to you? I feel the bomb underneath gonna burst anytime..anywhere..to anyone...

Love is blind.. But once fell in love, there is no turning back
Unless one of them was really broken heart and really couldn't stay strong in the relationship
I would still try..even though I really don't like to open one eye close one eye
but for the sake of our relationship, I have to do so.
Even though there was nothing happened actually, but I really find those photos caused my eyesore.
It's just an unpleasant feeling, it's not about trust.

TREAT THE PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED

If you really think that you will be alright when I do the same thing as yours...
Fine, I will just do. Sometimes keeping your face, will only lost your usual self and also your love ones...

习惯一个人生活

曾经我很努力地尝试一个人生活

失败了很多次 最后做到了 可是我离开了他

现在 以为无法再习惯一个人生活

没想到一年后 我做到了

从以前的甜蜜 偶尔的小惊喜

到转捩点的难过受伤 

如今现在心踏实多了 习惯了

以前我总是很知足 不敢要求太多

可是却听某人说 我应该想要什么就说出来 对自己好一点

我听话了 学会了

可是现在 一切就好像回到过去一样

我不再敢奢望 要求 没有人会真正理解我的感受

跟我交往过的人 都以为我在要求 在控制对方

为何对方不想想其实 我只是需要尊重

情侣之间 除了信任 尊重也是很重要

刚开始在一起 觉得自己像个小公主

觉得自己是全世界最幸福的人

以前总可以好好沟通

把心里的不满说出来 大家的感情才能进步

现在我却要学会隐藏自己的委屈

男人 总可以在生气的时候欺负我

对我不理睬 不管我 也不想念我

但我生气的时候呢？男人可曾担心我会离开？答案是--没有

所以男人总在失去时才来后悔 我只能说 一切都太迟

也许有句话真的很对 不是谁变了

而是在一起久了 真正的个性就原形毕露了

我们就得适应真实个性的彼此 才能生活下去

一开始的甜蜜 幸福 都不是彼此真正的个性

都是为了给彼此好印象 让彼此开心 才做出来的牺牲

我自己也是 以为自己在新的感情里 可以很豁达 不在乎对方

毕竟在上段感情的后期 我是做到了

没想到 原来我能做到的原因 是因为我已经不爱他了

现在那种感觉又回来了 让自己变得不能随心所欲地说出自己想说的事

有什么不满要忍受不能让对方知道 也开始不能有要求了

对方也不再为自己制造偶尔的小惊喜 反倒是自己开始学会了

我每天都在提醒自己：“紫玫，你以为你是谁？这样已经很好了，你还能要求什么呢？你有什么本事让男人为了你一个平凡的女人不对其他女人好？你凭什么？以前的男朋友不是对女人更好吗？你都这样忍过来了，这又算什么呢？”

做人好累 我知道我没有安全感 可是很多情况不是我敏感而已

我与朋友倾诉 她们都觉得那样做不对 所以 为什么现在是我在道歉？

真正难过的是 伤心的是我 难过难受的也是我

掉眼泪 没办法做其他事情的是我

可是在掉泪的我 却一直假装没事地哄对方开心

我觉得 真的好辛苦 好难过

我知道 我就像个小孩

不像其他女人那么本事 那么成熟

可是我这样有什么不好？至少我不会害人 不会乱骂人

很想回到刚开始在一起的时候 我喜欢那时候的他多一点

他工作后 变了很多 也不再把我放在重要的位置了

对他而言 工作是第一
我是很支持他的 可是他无法平衡工作与爱情
现在的他很多事情都不告诉我 不跟我说
所以也不能怪我为何每次疑神疑鬼
如果他什么事都告诉我 不用我问 也会与我分享
那我还需要担心什么吗？我还会看他电话吗？
有时发短信也是鬼鬼祟祟的 出去看个电影 也在发短信
对 为了工作 可是也在跟同事聊天
不是怀疑什么 而是 我觉得我这个女朋友 连他的同事都不如
工作第一 同事第二 floorball也是排行前面 我呢？还需要我吗？
也许 之前太粘了 让他腻了吧

两个人在一起 必须要坦白 我很希望他可以主动多跟我分享他的事
我就不需要担心了 也不会让他有被控制的感觉
我们在一起 不是我一个人牺牲 就能长久的 我会累 会厌倦

我想找回那个自信的自己 很想解脱

很想找朋友一起去玩 让自己不要那么爱他

我太了解自己 当我越来越爱一个人 我就会变得痛苦 肯定是个输家

因为越在乎 只会让自己越失去自我

我只希望有个稳定的感情 让人羡慕的爱情

我们能做到的 不是吗？

像平时那样甜甜蜜蜜不行吗？

他越来越大男人 我不喜欢。。。

太久没情趣的话 我怕我的感觉有一天 会失去

不希望会有这一天 

希望自己 可以更幸福

回忆，真的很难忘掉

回忆又回来了

有些事情是想忘也忘不了的

爱情像难收的腹水

我永远都成为不了别人最爱的那个

以前天真地以为是对方成熟

其实是不够爱我 那不是真爱 是习惯

以前他没什么上传我们的合照

现在却每天在fb示爱

我是不爱他了 可是心里还是不是滋味

因为已经没有借口了

他以前并不是真的爱我。。。

心。。。很痛。。。很痛

虽然这些都是表面的东西

可是女生心里总是会拿过去比较

以前的她享有的权利和东西

为什么我也不能有呢？

谈恋爱真的很烦

Don't Let Insecurity Ruin The Beauty You Were Born With.

Recently, I'd set this picture as my desktop background as my daily self-reminder.

Ariel, you must stop doing soul-searching only but not taking any actions.

You must set a target for yourself in order to improve yourself to become a better woman for your man. He is worth for you to do so, isn't he?

I have faith in him but I lack of self-confidence. I always think highly of others but not of myself.

He is very capable in his career and always possess a positive mindset.

He is attractive as well and I know there are many butterflies around him.

Honestly, I feel insecure sometimes but also quite proud of myself because he's been loyal to me.

You proved my decision is right. :)

Though sometimes I force you to act cute with me but you never said NO :)

You poor thing. LOL

Well, I like the way you look noob.
I like the photos you edited for me and emailed to me.

I like the emails you wrote to me and I still remember every single words you mentioned in the emails.

I also hope we would love each other till we grow old.

Maintaining a relationship is not an easy task for anyone in this world.

I believe true love and my sincerity could change me to be a better woman for you...

and you will always be there for me, aren't you?

I always clear that there is not only love is important in my life.

Family, friendship and career are always my priorities too.

I hope I can balance everything well and also work hard for my own future.

I must try to think positively and be more optimistic.

There is a long way to go...

Jiayou Ariel! You can do it! ^_^

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